The Unexpected, The Unfamiliar

It amazes me how fast time actually goes by. It's so true hearing that the days are long, but the years are short. Being honest it is very hard to find something that makes you happy each and everyday. Just trying to change things in your life to form better bonds and become happier is hard. But there is always something there.

I've been pondering something I read the other day and I just can't help but agree with it. 'We seek to control our lives, but the unfamiliar and the unexpected are important sources to happiness.' But what does that even mean?

We live in this society that is run by technology. Everyone has social media and that becomes all means of communication, dating has become things like tinder, and shopping is more convenient online. And its just making living our lives more easier because we are all so busy. We all want exactly what we envision for ourselves. We seek out so much for ourselves, but half the time are never willing to take the steps to achieve anything. 

With all the technology, we are never satisfied. When it comes to dating or even friendship, we always want more. We never are going to be satisfied with what is in front of us because we think of the connection we may be able to have else where. Without even thinking about it we are planning for the future but are never taking the time to stop and take in all that is going on around us. The future is never promised to us so why can't we enjoy what we have? Why will we never be satisfied with what we already have? The grass my be greener on the other side but its because we aren't watering our own.

This life that we seek out to control and have it become all that we want, makes us hesitate all those things that may be unfamiliar or unexpected. I know personally that I like structure and I like  to have plans. 

One thing that was extremely important to me when doing my happiness project was to relax when it came to 'being late.' I realized one day while waiting for my friends an hour after we were suppose to go somewhere that me freaking out wasn't going to change the situation. And working on that has made a big change in my life and is something that has made me become happier. 

By doing this I opened a door to the unexpected and the unfamiliar because they are an IMPORTANT source of happiness.  Because sometimes when you are trying to seek out something, it comes when you aren't even looking. Take chances, be spontaneous, and try new things because these are the things that make you exactly who you are. And you never know what is going to happen tomorrow.

Quote of the day: The unexpected is usually what brings the unbelievable.

XOXO,

Marissa

The Happiness Project

As 2015 starts I sat and thought most of what I want this years. Like the resolutions everyone makes and breaks I wanted something different. I don't want to make my new years resolution be that i'm going to workout more or eat healthier. I wanted something that was going to beneft me in more ways. What I want is to become happier. Now don't get me wrong I absolutely love the life that I live and I am happy with were I am in my life. But there are so many things in this world that we all could do to make us happier. For me I could stop complaining, eat better, exercise more, stop procrastinating, enjoy my time with the ones around me, so many little things that I could change in my daily routine to make me happier. But how would I go about changing these things if I was waking up every day and saying that I will do it tomorroow (procrastination at its finest) I have to start somewhere.

So I am setting out on my happiness journey. I will take steps everyday, month by month, and live a happier life. I will get rid of all the negativity in my life and just surround myself with positivity. I had someone share a book with me the other day and I read about it and decided to buy it. Gretchen Rubin talks about creating 12 things you want to focus on, picking one each month for a whole year. For my happiness project and in the month of January I am going to focus on energy. 

Like Rubin did in her happiness project, I will focus on both physical and mental energy. Going to bed early and getting enough sleep are hard for me with my work schedule but I can still do other things. I will take small steps by drinking more water each day and also by working out everyday. Becooming healthier will provide me with more energy that I need. My hope for this project are not just to become happier but to document my journey. By doing that I have also began a 100 days of happiness on instagram. I hope to update my blog monthly as well. 

I hope everyone has the happiest 2015!!!

xoxo, Marissa

The days are long, but the years are short.

The Happiness Project

Gretchen Rubin